The fast-paced, busy and highly demanding lifestyles have altered much of the conventional order of dating. The conventional art and magic of dating is facing the axe of technology and the changing times.
Can you contend with the demystifying lose of beauty of words that characterised conventional dating and courtship? A young man would take time to compose the sweet love lullabies he never before knew. Armed with courage, confidence, and pride, he would waylay a lady on her way to the river. From there, he would use the magic of words to woo her to love him. Such was a fine art of creativity and imagination that thrived on mutual appeal and consent.
But, today is not yesterday. When the neo-technology reared its startling head into our lives, things have turned upside down. Well in Africa, we could be the adversely affected since we are always on the receiving end.
A mere click of the mouse will unleash numerous windows before you. It is your democracy to take your pick.
The allure of internet dating is not an elusive intoxication. It is compulsive and tempting at the same time. Often, you will find people of all ages trying out numerous dating sites. Some do this out of fun, others out of curiosity. Others are in it because they’d like to meet that Mr. or Ms. Right. As usual, there are those who use it as a money minting venture.
Credit goes to the creative and tireless minds that keep on designing numerous sites for the anonymous consumers. They come in handy: lovepot.com, friendfinder.com, letsdate.co.ca, penbuddies.com, passion.com, dating.com. The list is endless. Even different media outlets have joined the trade to give their consumers a taste of such type of dating. Flipping through the pages of newspapers, magazines just like clicking on the mouse for your ideal match, the catch-line will lay bare before you such anecdotes:
I am a 27 year old loving, caring, passionate Caucasian lady. I neither smoke nor drink. I’d like to get in touch with a man who possesses similar attributes with whom to share fun and the world ahead.
On such a by line, whether or not accompanied by a photo, the click of the mice will reign supreme. Guys will try their best to get in touch with such a prospective lover. However, most of them are out to enjoy a brief session of passion.
Tony, a student at MUK, will not let such a by-line to pass un-clicked. He seems to be obsessed with dating on the net. He’ll do anything to ensure he secures space in front of a computer in the cyber café to communicate with his net lovers. He believes in dating as many women as possible. If chance comes his way, he will get to meet some of them and have fun. That is what he has sacrificed much of his time to do.
Onex(pictured right), a student and a part time Literature teacher, is pessimistic about internet dating.
“You don’t know whom you date. You could date a devil worshiper and you will regret,” that is what has kept him off internet dating.
How effective and fulfilling is internet dating? More often, the myth of pessimism is always demystified when once upon a time total strangers get to see each other after dating on the net. Success stories will role of the tongues of the new love encounters who started it all on the net.
Such a success story from the likes of Alan on matchfinder.com.au could appeal to a lonely lad to try out their luck:
Thank you very much for your service. I have met a very lovely lady and she has agreed to be my girl-friend. So we have had some fantastic dates.
But, in most cases, those who date on the internet are usually geared towards romance with whichever match they’d like to date. It is hard to sustain such types of relationships especially after the first encounter. The two new ‘lovers’ are nervous to experience more of each after several more encounters. And, the relationship could be headed to the dogs when the goal of romance has been achieved.
Internet dating has a brand of its own risks. In the first place, you don’t know whom you are dating. It could be the most wanted criminal who would like to be your associate. It could be internet fraudsters who’d like to gain access to your bank account and empty it.
There are those ‘dates’ who would rather claim your life and keep theirs safely. The case of Raymond Merrill (www.wildxangel.com) is testimony to this. He is said to have the attractive attributes by a woman’s standards.
“He was financially well off, self-sufficient, good looking and ripe for the picking. So what went so horribly wrong? Raymond Merrill is dead. Drugged, Robbed and murdered for his money by his online lover and her real life boyfriend.”
However much internet dating seems to be a modern allure and to some, a better past time, it has its own risks involved. That is why, a warning or a precautionary note will always be availed for your consumption before you take a step to the tragedy. You will often be warned to meet in public with the stranger date of yours. You will be asked to inform your family members or close friend with whom you will hang out with and the venue. You should be suspicious of your date unless you don’t have to. Perhaps, don’t stay out late into the night. It might just be unhealthy for you.
Joshua Masinde
Can you contend with the demystifying lose of beauty of words that characterised conventional dating and courtship? A young man would take time to compose the sweet love lullabies he never before knew. Armed with courage, confidence, and pride, he would waylay a lady on her way to the river. From there, he would use the magic of words to woo her to love him. Such was a fine art of creativity and imagination that thrived on mutual appeal and consent.
But, today is not yesterday. When the neo-technology reared its startling head into our lives, things have turned upside down. Well in Africa, we could be the adversely affected since we are always on the receiving end.
A mere click of the mouse will unleash numerous windows before you. It is your democracy to take your pick.
The allure of internet dating is not an elusive intoxication. It is compulsive and tempting at the same time. Often, you will find people of all ages trying out numerous dating sites. Some do this out of fun, others out of curiosity. Others are in it because they’d like to meet that Mr. or Ms. Right. As usual, there are those who use it as a money minting venture.
Credit goes to the creative and tireless minds that keep on designing numerous sites for the anonymous consumers. They come in handy: lovepot.com, friendfinder.com, letsdate.co.ca, penbuddies.com, passion.com, dating.com. The list is endless. Even different media outlets have joined the trade to give their consumers a taste of such type of dating. Flipping through the pages of newspapers, magazines just like clicking on the mouse for your ideal match, the catch-line will lay bare before you such anecdotes:
I am a 27 year old loving, caring, passionate Caucasian lady. I neither smoke nor drink. I’d like to get in touch with a man who possesses similar attributes with whom to share fun and the world ahead.
On such a by line, whether or not accompanied by a photo, the click of the mice will reign supreme. Guys will try their best to get in touch with such a prospective lover. However, most of them are out to enjoy a brief session of passion.
Tony, a student at MUK, will not let such a by-line to pass un-clicked. He seems to be obsessed with dating on the net. He’ll do anything to ensure he secures space in front of a computer in the cyber café to communicate with his net lovers. He believes in dating as many women as possible. If chance comes his way, he will get to meet some of them and have fun. That is what he has sacrificed much of his time to do.
Onex(pictured right), a student and a part time Literature teacher, is pessimistic about internet dating.
“You don’t know whom you date. You could date a devil worshiper and you will regret,” that is what has kept him off internet dating.
How effective and fulfilling is internet dating? More often, the myth of pessimism is always demystified when once upon a time total strangers get to see each other after dating on the net. Success stories will role of the tongues of the new love encounters who started it all on the net.
Such a success story from the likes of Alan on matchfinder.com.au could appeal to a lonely lad to try out their luck:
Thank you very much for your service. I have met a very lovely lady and she has agreed to be my girl-friend. So we have had some fantastic dates.
But, in most cases, those who date on the internet are usually geared towards romance with whichever match they’d like to date. It is hard to sustain such types of relationships especially after the first encounter. The two new ‘lovers’ are nervous to experience more of each after several more encounters. And, the relationship could be headed to the dogs when the goal of romance has been achieved.
Internet dating has a brand of its own risks. In the first place, you don’t know whom you are dating. It could be the most wanted criminal who would like to be your associate. It could be internet fraudsters who’d like to gain access to your bank account and empty it.
There are those ‘dates’ who would rather claim your life and keep theirs safely. The case of Raymond Merrill (www.wildxangel.com) is testimony to this. He is said to have the attractive attributes by a woman’s standards.
“He was financially well off, self-sufficient, good looking and ripe for the picking. So what went so horribly wrong? Raymond Merrill is dead. Drugged, Robbed and murdered for his money by his online lover and her real life boyfriend.”
However much internet dating seems to be a modern allure and to some, a better past time, it has its own risks involved. That is why, a warning or a precautionary note will always be availed for your consumption before you take a step to the tragedy. You will often be warned to meet in public with the stranger date of yours. You will be asked to inform your family members or close friend with whom you will hang out with and the venue. You should be suspicious of your date unless you don’t have to. Perhaps, don’t stay out late into the night. It might just be unhealthy for you.
Joshua Masinde
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